Relationships

Lori Gottlieb offers a lot of really useful insights concerning emotions, relationships, and communication. Here are some discussion points from her talk: 

  • Why pushing away emotion is ineffective.

  • The value of therapy.

  • The difference between secrecy (shame-based) and privacy (boundary-based).

  • Compassion and accountability, not “either/or”.

  • The value of therapy (self-awareness, noting patterns).

  • Conflict and communication issues. 

  • The connection between relational ‘chemistry’ and familiarity.

  • “We marry our unfinished business."

  • Making changes has to be for ourselves, not just to elicit a response in others.

  • “We don’t cause our own pain but we cause our own suffering.”

  • How to sit well with someone who is grieving.